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Behind the CBC’s decision to fire Ghomeshi – The Globe and Mail.

Well things are coming into perspective. Enough has transpired to indicate that this can only be resolved in a court of law.

However, that said, I am still questioning and concerned about a ‘WHY’ !

So the critical question is ‘WHY’ did it take so long for not 1, 2 or 3, but according to the last news report 9 women to come out of the shadows to explain their situations!

Of even more concern, is the notion and commonly accepted idea that victims tend to under report such incidents. What that suggests to me is the old school thinking that any law enforcement agency first serves itself in treating victims of sexual violence as ‘sluts’ and even worst ‘asking for it’ mentality.

If we even attempt to fast forward to today’s enlightened men and women of all genders, race, orientation and faiths, ‘WHY’ did it take so long for 9 women to come forward with 21st century events somewhere between a good dozen years to the recent past.

Would law enforcement agencies even have had this type of person under a minute radar of watch, wait and see, or was it better to wait until some poor person, man or women would have been so physically abused or worst dead that they could have stepped in.

BDSM is no laughing matter. You are dealing with pain/pleasure thresholds which can cascade way wrong if no safety guards and measures of consent are not in place.

Consent to sex is one thing. Consent to BDSM quite another. Even in BDSM atmospheres, you still have safe words to indicate where initial consent was granted and where it is no longer okay to proceed. It doesn’t matter what gender you are with, it is the activity and it’s subsequent impact on both parties aftermath that either indicates all went well or something is going on that needs further clarification.

Clearly when BDSM becomes all pain and no pleasure gain, something isn’t right. Victims that wait to at least file a report or at the very least see a specialists to examine their ‘mental health’ for further analysis are in large part also a problem. The optics of only coming out of the closet years later absolutely does not help their cases.

Peer pressure and even societal norms and expectations of old days held steadfastly still exerts a sway in how victims are expected to ‘grin and bear it’. With the sheer speed of change since 2000, everything is changing, albeit slowly.

Moral of the story. Listen to yourselves and report incidences as a victim. Law enforcement is there to serve, protect and provide some dignity and respect to victims. Thankfully with the advent of technology, old school is getting with it in terms of wavevolution. Those who don’t, are dinosaurs about to recede into the past.

BUT, don’t be surprised henceforth if any BDSM activities end up on video and YOUTUBE where you granted consent. Everyone then is served properly without doubt. Your story decades later no longer holds water with legs to stand on.